You
wash your face and brush your teeth, put on an alluring
smile and hop into bed with your sweetie – then
start dragging your body image baggage under the covers
with you.
For
some people this means bringing a tiny speck of a
change purse – for others it’s a designer
handbag. For those who are the most consumed with
their body image this could mean an entire set of
monogrammed leather bags in various sizes –
or, worse, a giant garbage sack filled to the brim!
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Where’s
the room for a satisfying sex life with all of that?
The
baggage consists of those destructive thoughts you have
about the size of your thighs, the tone of your tummy, the
amount of hair on your body. You worry that your partner
will notice – or worse, be completely repulsed by
you.
If
you drag all of those negative beliefs about your body into
bed, they can wreak havoc with your sex life.
Unlike
you, your partner is probably not thinking about your alleged
“flaws” – they are thinking about how
much they want to make love to you, and be made love to
in return.
They
are turned on by the touch of your skin, your smell, your
smile. Most of all they are excited by your confidence and
openness – and your willingness to be in bed with
them in the first place!
If
you are obsessed with parts of your body, this can have
a negative impact on the quality of your sex life –
for you AND your partner. Love-making is a way to bring
a couple closer together – but you can’t give
yourself to the moment if you are constantly wondering what
your partner is thinking about parts of your body. (It probably
isn’t what you think!)
Take
a moment before you hop into bed to put those fears and
insecurities to rest. Your sweetie is waiting for you –
ALL of you – to hop into bed. So look into that bathroom
mirror, give yourself a 1000 watt smile and remember that
it’s the whole package that’s delivered, not
just parts.
Set
that baggage outside the door, and hang up the Do Not Disturb
sign. You’ve got better things to think about!
About
The Author
Jennifer
Clare is the author of The No Sweat Guide To Fitness (http://www.stopweighting.com/nosweat.htm)
and the founder of Stop Weighting (http://www.stopweighting.com),
a coaching program helping people stop yo-yo dieting and
start achieving balance with their bodies. Isn’t it
time to get that weight off your mind?
info@stopweighting.com |
